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I want to share some thoughts on polygamy from a non-religious/secular perspective. But I want to begin by defining and separating it a bit from other forms of polyamory. Polyamory is ethical and consensual non-monogamy, that is, having multiple romantic relationships between two or more people. Polygamy comes from the Greek word polugamia which is…
In modern psychology we almost always talk about punishment in relationships in a negative light. Punishment, usually emotional punishment, causes distancing between partners and occurs when one person tries to punish another for what they perceive to be bad behavior. Often that perception is an ill-conceived one, arising from misperception and misconception of what the…
A boot camp is a short, intense, rigorous, and focused period of training that has two specific goals: to teach new skills and to instill new habits in place of old. For example, a military boot camp is designed to take a civilian and give them the skills necessary to work and survive as a…
Written by: Polly Peachum From the author: I wrote this article in 1988 for one issue of a short-lived print bdsm zine called “The Original Agenda.” This zine was produced and distributed by Jon Jacobs and Gloria Brame to a small subscription base comprised mostly of couples and individuals they had become acquainted with on…
What is a red flag? All of us strive for connection, for finding that someone who “gets us,” for meeting those human beings who are compatible with our own needs, wants, and desires. Finding that right connection is essential to initiating a good dynamic in a BDSM relationship, or any relationship, and to building and…
These video links are presented in no particular order How to Be a Better Submissive [BDSM] 3 Tips on How to Be Submissive Avoiding Sub Frenzy and Advice for New Submissives The Basic Tenets of Being a Submissive in a D/s Dynamic | Submissive Guide Submissive Self-Training: A How-to Guide [BDSM] Communication Tips for Introverted,…
Author: A submissives journey Taken in Hand (sometimes abbreviated as TiH) is a neologism that refers to a style of monogamous, heterosexual relationship which is male-led. The female submits to her male partner’s decisions in matters of everyday life. Non-Sexual Dynamics Most Taken in Hand relationships exist between couples who are married or at least…
I am a wonderful and loving slave. I have the strength to submit willfully, my submission is never a weakness to be exploited, and I choose to be a proud slave. My mind, body, and spirit are not mine, but willingly given to my Master. I know that I am an amazing gift to my…
An Article by Yaldah Tovah, MD “Discipline gives total freedom; it allows you to go beyond your limitations, to break through boundaries and reach the highest goal. The path to discipline will not only save a person’s life, it will also give it meaning. How? By introducing him to deeper joys and deeper longings, by…
The BDSM social media world seems to be inundated with hyper-masculine, fake-ass Alpha-male types, who act like douches, run around like players, treat women like crap and call themselves Dominants. But are they? So often the behavior that I see online, and in real life, isn’t that of a Dominant but of a douche. Men…