1. Be PatientUntil you enter into a contract with a submissive, you have no more right to order him/her around than does anyone else. Give your bottom time to get to know you and what you like. Finesse and subtlety are major elements of dominance. Similarly, strength and gentleness go hand in hand. The sensitivity…
Submissive and slave: Etymology and Usage of the Terms in Lifestyle BDSM
The battle over the terms submissive and slave is an ongoing and never-ending one in the BDSM space; it gets even worse when people from the vanilla world attempt to get involved and subject us to their interpretations and biases. I am not going to offer a definitive answer, nor am I capable of doing…
The Etiquette of Online BDSM
I spend too much time on Facebook. Family, friends, local news, pages and groups for pretty much any interest, including BDSM, and I spend a lot of time there. I enjoy the diversity, the opportunity to learn, to interact with a wide variety of people from different backgrounds and with different interests and experiences. However,…
The submissive journal
Keeping a journal is one of the most essential, often overlooked, and useful tools that the submissive has at her disposal. While keeping a journal can be a good way to write down your memories, to help you remember events or ideas, It’s real power comes in that it is actually an evolving blueprint that…
The Traits of a Real Dominant
The BDSM social media world seems to be inundated with hyper-masculine, fake-ass Alpha-male types, who act like douches, run around like players, treat women like crap and call themselves Dominants. But are they? So often the behavior that I see online, and in real life, isn’t that of a Dominant but of a douche. Men…
The Vicissitudes of Submissive Development
An Article by Yaldah Tovah, MD In an earlier paper, I highlighted the developmental line that produces a healthy adult heterosexual submissive female (here). I highlighted the role of temperament and environment and how they interact to influence the personality development of girls destined to have a submissive orientation in adulthood. In doing so, I…
The Healthy Submissive
An Article by Yaldah Tovah, MD “Discipline gives total freedom; it allows you to go beyond your limitations, to break through boundaries and reach the highest goal. The path to discipline will not only save a person’s life, it will also give it meaning. How? By introducing him to deeper joys and deeper longings, by…
How the Best Hackers Learn Their Craft
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The Stolen Child
Where dips the rocky highlandOf Sleuth Wood in the lake,There lies a leafy islandWhere flapping herons wakeThe drowsy water rats;There we’ve hid our faery vats,Full of berrysAnd of reddest stolen cherries. Come away, O human child!To the waters and the wildWith a faery, hand in hand,For the world’s more full of weeping than you can…
Odin´s Rune-song
RunatalsÞáttr Oðins I know that I hung,on a wind-rocked tree,nine whole nights,with a spear wounded,and to Odin offered,myself to myself;on that tree,of which no one knowsfrom what root it springs. Bread no one gave me,nor a horn of drink,downward I peered,to runes applied myself,wailing learnt them,then fell down thence. Potent songs ninefrom the famed son…