Category: BDSM

I sent this letter to my slave shortly before we entered our M/s dynamic formally. There is no greater gift that a woman can give to a man than the gift of her submission to Him. In some rare and special cases that gift finds its fullness in the act of consensual slavery. It is…

I hear some very disturbing stories in the BDSM world from time to time. One of the things that really gets me is how often I hear about a first meeting between potential partners go wrong or come very close to going wrong. Quite often one of the people is just out looking for some…

The Caressing Style of Yukimura Haruki. In 2008, Yukimura Haruki sensei organized a special kinbaku night at a theater in Golden Gai. Several of his students were given the opportunity to demonstrate their kinbaku in the Yukimura style. The video shows a 20-minute demo by Osada Steve with Asagi Ageha / 浅葱アゲハ as his model.

by Terra Bloom Soon after my husband and I discovered BDSM, I was struck by the numerous ways in which sexual submission is similar to actual spiritual practices. The first is obvious: Submission is the experience of surrender in the most literal way. Eastern religions have long taught that when one is truly surrendered, relinquishing…

1. Be PatientA potential top will let you know if she or he is interested in you or not. Keep in mind that your purpose as a submissive is to serve and to satisfy someone who will take into consideration the realization of your fantasies. Don’t expect your top to be able to turn on…

1. Be PatientUntil you enter into a contract with a submissive, you have no more right to order him/her around than does anyone else. Give your bottom time to get to know you and what you like. Finesse and subtlety are major elements of dominance. Similarly, strength and gentleness go hand in hand. The sensitivity…

The battle over the terms submissive and slave is an ongoing and never-ending one in the BDSM space; it gets even worse when people from the vanilla world attempt to get involved and subject us to their interpretations and biases. I am not going to offer a definitive answer, nor am I capable of doing…

I spend too much time on Facebook. Family, friends, local news, pages and groups for pretty much any interest, including BDSM, and I spend a lot of time there. I enjoy the diversity, the opportunity to learn, to interact with a wide variety of people from different backgrounds and with different interests and experiences. However,…

Keeping a journal is one of the most essential, often overlooked, and useful tools that the submissive has at her disposal. While keeping a journal can be a good way to write down your memories, to help you remember events or ideas, It’s real power comes in that it is actually an evolving blueprint that…

The BDSM social media world seems to be inundated with hyper-masculine, fake-ass Alpha-male types, who act like douches, run around like players, treat women like crap and call themselves Dominants. But are they? So often the behavior that I see online, and in real life, isn’t that of a Dominant but of a douche. Men…