In modern psychology we almost always talk about punishment in relationships in a negative light. Punishment, usually emotional punishment, causes distancing between partners and occurs when one person tries to punish another for what they perceive to be bad behavior. Often that perception is an ill-conceived one, arising from misperception and misconception of what the…
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The BDSM Boot Camp
A boot camp is a short, intense, rigorous, and focused period of training that has two specific goals: to teach new skills and to instill new habits in place of old. For example, a military boot camp is designed to take a civilian and give them the skills necessary to work and survive as a…
Taken In Hand
Author: A submissives journey Taken in Hand (sometimes abbreviated as TiH) is a neologism that refers to a style of monogamous, heterosexual relationship which is male-led. The female submits to her male partner’s decisions in matters of everyday life. Non-Sexual Dynamics Most Taken in Hand relationships exist between couples who are married or at least…
The Fragrant Dust
Written by: Polly Peachum From the author: I wrote this article in 1988 for one issue of a short-lived print bdsm zine called “The Original Agenda.” This zine was produced and distributed by Jon Jacobs and Gloria Brame to a small subscription base comprised mostly of couples and individuals they had become acquainted with on…
Red Flags in BDSM
What is a red flag? All of us strive for connection, for finding that someone who “gets us,” for meeting those human beings who are compatible with our own needs, wants, and desires. Finding that right connection is essential to initiating a good dynamic in a BDSM relationship, or any relationship, and to building and…
Videos for the new sub
These video links are presented in no particular order How to Be a Better Submissive [BDSM] 3 Tips on How to Be Submissive Avoiding Sub Frenzy and Advice for New Submissives The Basic Tenets of Being a Submissive in a D/s Dynamic | Submissive Guide Submissive Self-Training: A How-to Guide [BDSM] Communication Tips for Introverted,…
The Good Wife’s Guide
From Housekeeping Monthly, 13 May, 1955. Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have be thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they get home…
Introduction to Submission
This is a nice article I ran across while doing some online research. My slave enjoyed it and wanted to share with everyone else. The authors name is Kim Debron and we highly recommend her website and the rest of her articles, particularly for subs and those who are new to the scene. Her website…
A slaves Daily Affirmation
I am a wonderful and loving slave. I have the strength to submit willfully, my submission is never a weakness to be exploited, and I choose to be a proud slave. My mind, body, and spirit are not mine, but willingly given to my Master. I know that I am an amazing gift to my…
The Slave Bonding Ritual
This is the ritual we follow when we review and resign a contract. Basically it started out as once a year unless we made a major change to the contract. For example, if you decide to remove safe words, you would need a new contract. If we change a hard limit, we sign a new…