Since my last post was on some of the rules that my slaves have to follow in public, I thought I would share some of the rules that they must follow at home. This list is by no means exhaustive but are taken from several different contracts that I have used in the past which…
Author: Ian
Slave Rules in Public
I’ve seen a lot of discussion lately on how slaves and submissives should act in public. And even more questions from people who are new to the lifestyle. Unfortunately, I’ve also seen some really bad advice from people who might mean well, but really don’t understand that you just don’t break a 24/7 D/s dynamic…
BDSM Should be Taught in Sex Education Classes
We really need to normalize teaching about all aspects of sexual behavior to students in sex education classes. We need to teach the basics of BDSM in sex education classes, not so much the full on D/s side of things, but at least the basics of kink. People need to know that it is normal…
Stop Hiding BDSM in the Closet
First, let me start by saying that no one should be forced to stay in the closet or to come out of the closet. Every single human being should be free to express their sexuality the way they choose to without fear of persecution or shame. Now, while I sincerely believe that everyone has a…
The Triskelion: Symbol of BDSM
Since the mid-1990’s the BDSM triskelion symbol, as shown on this page, has become the de facto symbol of BDSM culture internationally. The symbol was purposefully designed to be a bit ‘mysterious’, to not stand out too much. It allows people within the community to recognize it, without blatantly screaming “I’m a kinky freak”. The…
So you want to be a slave: The Realities
This is an excellent article on the realities of being a 24/7 slave in a M/s dynamic and written from the perspective of a slave living the lifestyle. It was published a number of years ago, I believe in 2008, by Miria Hunter. I decided to write this article because I have seen so many…
Slave Training: Positions
Formal slave training generally begins with some sort of physical training. In the BDSM world, usually this means that we begin with basic position training so that the submissive knows how to properly position herself with good posture in the presence of her Dominant. Position training as the physical basis for slave training has its…
The Body Positivity Movement Failure
Let’s talk about the Body Positivity Movement. It is failing. It’s making things worse. The underlying idea is not terrible. We can’t all look like cover models, super models, bodybuilders, movie stars, and whatnot. And that’s okay. We need to be accepting of ourselves and others. We need to stop hating, rejecting, not loving ourselves…
The Good Wife’s Guide
From Housekeeping Monthly, 13 May, 1955. Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have be thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they get home…
Introduction to Submission
This is a nice article I ran across while doing some online research. My slave enjoyed it and wanted to share with everyone else. The authors name is Kim Debron and we highly recommend her website and the rest of her articles, particularly for subs and those who are new to the scene. Her website…