Since my last post was on some of the rules that my slaves have to follow in public, I thought I would share some of the rules that they must follow at home. This list is by no means exhaustive but are taken from several different contracts that I have used in the past which is why some are written in third person and some in first, there are also some duplicates for the same reason. I write rules that I believe will benefit myself as the Master, but I also want to encourage both the slaves submissive nature and her growth as a person. Contrary to what many fake (or inexperienced) Dominants claim, being a submissive or slave is not all about demeaning the woman or beating her down in some way. The job of the Dominant is to build and enhance the slave’s innate nature as a submissive, to help her find fulfillment and happiness in her service to her Master. At the end of the day, if she is not happy in her service to her Master, He is failing in his duty.
Rules should be written to match the dynamic of the particular relationship that each Master and slave find themselves in. They should be agreed upon and then strictly enforced. My approach is to begin each submissives training with a half-dozen or so rules and then add on every week or two. I am more interested in quality over quantity and so I want my submissives to truly embody and live each rule fully before taking on more. Simply throwing a bunch of rules at someone when you begin training only overwhelms the submissive and makes it impossible for her to truly serve. We have to build them up and help them get to where we want. By the time a submissive is ready to become a true slave these rules should be second nature.
- I will make my body available to my Master for use at any time, and act as His sexual plaything. My pussy, mouth and ass belong to Him; I give Him full permission to use me as he sees fit, anywhere, and at any time day or night.
- I will learn to worship and crave His cock, relishing every opportunity to please it. I have permission and am encouraged to spontaneously start playing with it in any situation.
- I will take the time to communicate my thoughts and feelings, preferably in written form, so He knows which parts of my service I enjoy and which areas can be improved.
- In public and private I will do my best to look as good as I can, wearing clothes that are appealing and emphasize my femininity, so He can proudly show me off.
- I will keep my cunt and ass smooth and hair free for His viewing pleasure.
- My orgasms belong to my Master. I shall not have one without first asking his permission (even during sex). If my Master permits me to have one when He is not present, I will inform him by text immediately afterwards with a full description of what I fantasized about.
- I will respond with “Thank you, Daddy/Sir/Master” after every orgasm I have in His presence.
- I will practice anal training until I can take my Masters cock with ease.
- I will never remove my collar without my Master’s permission, and I will only allow Him to remove it. No other man or Dominant, including family, is allowed to touch my collar for any reason. Wear the collar the Master has given you with pride, for it signifies His ownership of you and your devotion to Him.
- Immediately upon entering the house (after using the toilet if necessary) I will retrieve my choice of house collars, kneel before my Master and ask Him to place it on me.
- Before leaving the house, I will retrieve my choice of day collars, kneel before my Master and ask Him to place it on me.
- I must ask permission before getting in to bed.
- After sex I will clean my Master.
- At home I shall always be dressed in such a way that my Master can use me at any time, unless otherwise told. I will not dress in clothes that impede His access in any way. I will change as soon as practical after He puts on my collar.
- In private, if I require oral comfort or pacification at any time, I shall inform Him by kneeling and saying, “Please may I make use of your cock, Sir?” and wait for an answer.
- I shall think up creative ways to show Him my slave side when He’s not around, over text or email.
- I will learn his routines and do everything I can to anticipate his needs and provide assistance through service. This may include everything from sexual services to housework.
- I will learn how to massage His feet and provide foot rubs when requested, practicing the art with focused attention and mindfulness.
- I will learn how to massage His cock expertly with my hands for sexual release and be available to provide this service when requested.
- I will call Him Sir/Master at all times. If we are with vanilla people or at work, this can be relaxed. Around family and friends, it is my choice, but I will always be mindful of how I address Him.
- I will continually learn, study, and look for ways to demonstrate my submission to my Master.
- I will learn slave poses, how to get into and out of them, and when to use them.
- I will make the bed every morning.
- When we have guests at home I will serve my Master first, then my guests, and then I will eat.
- I will not eat before my Master unless He directs otherwise.
- I will learn to kneel before my Master on a regular basis taking pleasure from displaying my submission to my Master.
- When Master comes home, I will immediately present myself for his pleasure and encourage Him to use me.
- When we are not together, I will immediately send Master a good morning text when I get up in the morning.
- I will learn about and keep a slave journal and present it to my Master for reading when He requests. I will research and write about BDSM scenes and fantasies that I want to try for my Master’s approval. I will write other things as directed.
- I will work on improving my mental and physical health and fitness so that I may live a long and fulfilling life as my Master’s slave.
- I will send my Master at least one sexy picture every day when we are apart- of myself, of a woman I find attractive, or of a personal fantasy.
- I will only buy clothes that my Master wants to see me in.
- I will strive to keep an open mind and learn as much about being a slave as possible.
- I will communicate honestly, respectfully, and clearly with my Master, even if I am afraid of disappointing Him.
- I will learn to trust my Master in everything, knowing that He will care for me above all others, that He will always put my well-being first, and that His love and care for me is reflected in the expectations, requests, rules, orders, and rituals that I am given.
- I will learn to live, think, and act in such a way that my Master is proud of my place as His slave and slave.
- I will wear Ben-wa balls regularly and will learn and practice Kegel exercises for mine and my Master’s pleasure.
- Every time my Master spanks me I will respond with “Thank you Master, may I have another.”
- I will work to always be honest with my Master and tell Him when I feel neglected or in need of extra attention for any reason.
- I will work on my posture and how I present myself even when my Master is not around. Knowing that my appearance reflects my mental state, I will strive to show myself as a beautiful slave woman, sexually evocative, and owned by my Master, at all times. Every time He looks at me, I should present as his slave, willing and wanting to please and tease Him with my appearance and attitude and knowing that every man and woman who sees me should want me.
- I will always kiss and thank my Master after every sexual activity.
- I will recite my daily affirmation as directed by my Master.
- You submit to My will. You are bound to Me and have accepted My authority over you. Your purpose is to serve, obey and please Me. I will manage, discipline, and control you in a manner intended to train you to please Me.
- The slaves body and mind are the Masters property. I accept that part of training is the actual physical control of my behavior. I have no privacy from Him. The space I occupy, my time, physical actions, privacy, and relationships with others are controlled and managed by Him.
- When the slave feels unsafe or is in too much pain, she is required to speak up – even when the Master has told her to be silent. If she is not able to verbalize it, she may express it in whatever way suits the circumstances. The slave must be careful not to take more than you can handle, and her Owner needs feedback to know when to stop.
- Eat properly. Do what you can to be healthy, of sound mind and body, and as free as possible of any personal limitations in order to please Me. You cannot refuse My decision that you receive medical attention, if so ordered.
- Communication is the most important factor in the development of our relationship. Listen with a strong interest to whatever I say. Answer each and every communication sent to you by Me when not I am not present. Contact Me each day we are apart.
- Be both specific and explicit in your speech. Give as complete and accurate answers to questions that I ask of you as you are able. You are allowed no secrets from Me. Express your emotions through honest communication. You may cry if you feel so moved. Work hard to welcome this openness of body, mind, and soul.
- You are always in submission to Me whether I am present or not. Be ready to please Me at any time, in any place, under any circumstances, regardless of who may be present.
- You must discuss any issues you have with Me, especially any which affect trust between us. Your goal is to trust Me and to retain My trust. My concern for your total safety includes emotional, psychological, social, sexual, and physical health.
- During training, I will establish goals for you, and you are responsible for their completion on a timely basis. Inform Me if you are not feeling motivated to accomplish the goals. You are responsible for understanding the goals and may ask questions if you need clarification.
- I have control of every aspect of your life. Work to align your will with Mine. This is your duty as My slave, and you have stated your desire to serve and please Me by doing so. You are expected not to misbehave to get attention.
- Do not hesitate in obedience to Me unless you perceive a threat to safety, the family, or employment. Communicate the problem, in detail, as quickly as possible. If you do not understand an instruction, ask for clarification. If the fulfilling becomes exhausting, ask for a benchmark. Do not work yourself to death.
- Be attentive to My needs. Be ready to respond to them to the best of your abilities and in whatever way I specify. I appreciate anticipatory service, but do not be crushed if I ask you to modify something you have done for Me. I understand that the opportunity to please Me is very important to you.
- Confess to Me when you have disobeyed so that we may discuss why the violation took place and how to prevent a repetition. I may require you to do restitution. Punishment should be an exceedingly rare occurrence. You must accept My decisions.
- You must never show disrespect towards your Master in any way – no matter where you are – in His presence or not.
- When relevant, your choices shall be primarily based upon whether or not they will please Me.
- We will periodically examine your whole life and look at how it has changed as a result of My ownership of you. Speak to Me about areas where there have been improvements and any areas where you feel uncomfortable, insecure, or unsure of what direction you should take or how you should behave.
- Slaves are responsible for maintaining a current list of these rules and all other material provided for their training. In between formal training periods, they are to study and internalize these rules and understand their underlying logic. You are not expected to memorize these rules verbatim but are to know them and abide by them. Some rules may have more than one meaning, if in doubt, ask Me. The final authority is Mine.
Again, these are samples of rules that I have used in the past or currently have in place. They pertain a lot toward how the slave is to behave in private though there is some overlap with public behavior as well. In addition to these, there are also rules that apply specifically toward the slaves appearance, toward sexual activities, and so on.
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