I sent this letter to my slave shortly before we entered our M/s dynamic formally.
There is no greater gift that a woman can give to a man than the gift of her submission to Him. In some rare and special cases that gift finds its fullness in the act of consensual slavery. It is a hard gift to accept within oneself as society has conditioned women to believe that service is wrong, that they must be staunchly independent, that service, submission, obedience are somehow degrading or ‘patriarchal’. But it ignores the absolute fact that most people are born to specific roles in life. And two of those roles are expressed through Dominance and submission which works out, in its fullest sense, in the roles of Master and slave.
Most women are born submissive, this is further conditioned and the behavior reinforced, by the way they are raised. Unfortunately the mixed signals of contemporary western society causes women to deny, to not accept or understand, this submissive nature. It is a grievous error that can leave women unhappy and unfulfilled as they go through life unable to find what they need to be truly fulfilled. There is the constant struggle for equal rights and gender normative behavior that precludes the free and willing choices of men and women to behave in a natural manner. We are being forced to accept the theory that equal rights means women and men cannot act in dominant and submissive roles. We are being forced to accept the theory that any perceived difference in gender roles is hateful, or bigoted, or something worse. Men cannot be men, women cannot be women. We no longer have a choice, we are being forced to present ourselves in this new politically correct, almost asexual or gender-less, identity.
But that is not who we are at a fundamental level. There are differences between men and women, that doesn’t lessen our equality, it simply recognizes our biology and physiology.. It’s like saying that blue equals green. They are both colors, they are both equally important, they both occupy vital places in the color spectrum, but one is not more or less than the other- yet some people prefer green over blue, or blue over green. In some places blue is more important, in other places green is. Equality between sexes is the same. Women must have equal rights, but that includes the right to exercise submission, to be who she is fully and to the greatest extent possible. It also means that those few women who are naturally dominant be allowed to be so.
But you, my love, are a true submissive. A woman who desires more than anything else to help and server other people. To always be the one that others can rely on to help them. You are at your best when you are serving others and always putting them before yourself – this is the heart of submission. And it must never be confused with weakness. The strength that is necessary to submit and serve another is far more than what most people will ever need to simply walk through life alone.
It has been written that the core of submission is obedience. True obedience is found in action, it is found in that place where the body moves to obey even while the mind is formulating a response to the command. Accepting your role as my slave means accepting the rule of obedience. But it does not mean being blind to what you do or the repercussions of my orders. Do I expect obedience, absolutely, do I expect you to hurt yourself or others by being obedient – never. Do not question without respect. Never refuse, but always be mindful of your place. And part of that place, in serving your Master, is the desire to never do harm to him. Which might mean pointing out an error in an order when necessary, but from within the desire to be obedient, to live in that place of service to me.
The slave is the true submissive, she obeys and serves, and nothing else. But it is her conscious, willful, consensual choice to serve. She isn’t blind, she isn’t an automaton, she is a human being, fully realized and empowered. She has found a Master, her man, her Dominant. She has found someone worth serving, worth being a slave to, someone who is worthy of her trust and devotion. Someone she loves and wants to serve. And there is no greater honor than being that man. And there is no greater responsibility in life than to be a Master. The true Master is taking on the absolute responsibility for the protection and well-being of His slave. She is his everything. Anything less is a betrayal of the Master and slave relationship.
There is often this fear that becoming a slave means you loose your humanity, your sense of self, or your dignity in some way. The truth is nothing like that. In many ways the true submissive, the slave, is dropping away the sense of ego that gets in the way of her service. She stops thinking about “me”, or “I”, and learns to put her Master first. As this happens the slave slowly begins to accept that her place with her Master is the most fulfilling role she could have. She finds that happiness and contentment are more common and become her regular place of abode. In many ways true submission mirrors the Japanese concept of satori, of what the Buddhist’s call ‘enlightenment’ which is nothing more than accepting yourself as you are. While it often sounds like voodoo, or something hokey, to the new submissive, it is actually a well-documented fact.
It won’t be easy all of time. It won’t always be a smooth road. The slave will make mistakes as will her Master. But the journey will be worth it, We will walk together hand-in-hand, and I will lead us – you only have to make the choice to follow.